I am seriously considering either writing a book or at least compiling some advice for couples affected by infidelity. I am not a writer, but find writing to be cathartic. If I can use writing to help myself heal and in turn help someone else, then maybe all of this pain can count for something.
I need some help. If you read this, could you please answer the following?
*What is the best advice you were given? Did you follow it?
*What is the worst advice you were given? Did you follow it?
*Did you work with a therapist? How did it help? Not help?
*What is something you wish you didn’t do after D-Day? Could be something destructive that caused more damage or could be that you didn’t stand up for yourself enough, etc.
*How long were you together before the affair occurred? Are you still together now? How long has it been since D-Day?
*What do your spouse do right after the affair to help the healing process?
*What did your spouse do wrong after the affair to help the healing process?
*What 3 pieces of advice would you give someone else who just found out or is still struggling to work through the pain?